If Your Sink Overflowed, You’d Call a Plumber—So Why Are You Drowning in Shame Instead of Asking for Help?

You wouldn’t stand there, watching the water rise, telling yourself, “I should have prevented this.”

You wouldn’t let it sit, feeling embarrassed that you let it happen.

You wouldn’t hesitate to call someone—because it’s just a problem that needs fixing.

So why does it feel different when the mess is dishes instead of water? Laundry instead of a leaky pipe?

Dust, clutter, and exhaustion instead of a home that feels like a place you can finally exhale?

Maybe because somewhere along the way, you were told that a clean home wasn’t just about cleanliness.

It was about character.

It was about who you are as a person.

And if you couldn’t keep up?

Then suddenly, it wasn’t just a messy house.

It was a reflection of you.

A sign that you weren’t trying hard enough.

That you were lazy, unorganized, or falling behind in a race everyone else seemed to be winning.

But what if none of that was true?

What if the state of your home wasn’t proof of your worth, but just proof that you’re human?

Because the truth is—the people with spotless homes? They have help.

They don’t carry guilt about it.

They don’t treat it like a failure. They don’t sit in shame while staring at the mess, waiting for the energy to magically appear.

They’ve just made a different choice.

A choice to stop tying their self-worth to how clean their counter tops are.A choice to let go of the guilt that was never theirs to carry.

A choice to breathe.

Because here’s the thing: shame is a trap.

It keeps you stuck. It makes the problem bigger than it is.

It convinces you that asking for help is failure—when in reality, it’s freedom.

So ask yourself this:

If it’s not a weakness to call a plumber for a burst pipe…

If it’s not shameful to take your car to a mechanic…

If it’s not a failure to outsource taxes, childcare, or food when you’re too busy…

Why is this any different?

What if letting go of the guilt was the thing that finally set you free?